What is it?
It seems at times to be a superpower, possessed by few and coveted by many.
In my mind, I would like to think I am a pretty decent juggler of family, academics, a social life and extracurricular activities. However, in reality such things don’t always pan out the way I want them to.
As a student in particular, it can be a difficult endeavor because you want to perform well academically but at the same time you do not want to miss out on spending time with your friends and family and doing the things you love like watching tons of anime.
I have also been the victim of trying to play superhuman, in which I had overestimated my time management skills and packed too much of everything within my so-called “balanced” life. It is instances like this where you become overwhelmed and becoming overwhelmed is never a good sign.
In situations such as this, I always take a step back and reassess everything in my life. I asked questions like, ‘What holds priority now?’ and ‘What can I do without?’
Some self-sacrifice is necessary to be in a healthy mental space. There is a saying which goes, ‘What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger” and how fitting it is for those of us struggling for balance in our daily lives.
This does not mean cutting back on the home phone calls, dog walks or even outings with friends.
Instead, it means being more realistic with how much work you must finish, what campus clubs you should devote time to, and when is the best time to go dancing or to the movies with friends.
This is where you have to get use to using the word “No.”
To clarify, you must get use to saying ‘No’ to yourself and not necessarily others. ‘No’ can be a very powerful weapon, for individuals like myself who find it hard to not want to do something. Even the best multitaskers can become unhealthily overwhelmed if they do not manage their time well through the power of ‘no.’
Therefore, the next time you find yourself overwhelmed by life’s pressures of student deadlines, Netflix binges, long phone calls, meetings, etc, first tell yourself ‘No, I will not be overwhelmed by this’ and then seek to balance your life by prioritizing and saying ‘no’ to things that don’t hold value now.