So here’s the thing, social media is obviously a part of our culture. We are wired. Think about it, what is the first thing you do when you wake up? What is the last thing you do before going to bed? What about when you’re in your lecture that got boring two minutes before you walked in? Between classes?
And the thing is, what we scroll to see is hardly important. We do it because it’s how we keep up with people.
Except online, people have a hard time with their filters. Personal diaries have become digitized and public.
Now combine that with romantic relationships. And holidays like yesterday’s Valentine’s Day. Valentine’s Day in our digital world is either the biggest self-esteem hit or the gushiest, goopiest, loveliest day of your internet year.
If you’re like me, and you’re in a long-distance relationship, Valentine’s Day can be kind of awkward.
Instagram is filled with glittery dates and lovely pink flowers. Your facebook feed is inundated with poetry and odes to significant others. Snapchat stories feature engagements and other surprises. And all I want is to be in the same state as my own person.
If you’re single, these posts go from awkward to annoying.
Don’t get me wrong! I’m not telling you not to experience those moments and love them and enjoy them!
What I am telling you is that your love for your person will shine through whether you say it to cyberspace or not.
It’s okay. We have all fallen into the internet trap. We become addicted to the likes. We crave the attention.
But how do we affect others when we indulge ourselves this way?
We are only presenting our most perfect selves online. People don’t see the “human” parts. Now everyone is in an intense comparison battle, trying desperately to out -perfect their friends.
I like to believe that no one has a personal vendetta against the self esteem of the people they share the internet space with.
So how do we combat this?
I myself have made a rule in my head. I use social media to share with my family, update my campus community about local events, and occasionally share funny videos. If I start a post and I’m not sure which category it falls into, I cancel it.
My challenge to you is this: when you make a post, ask yourself who your audience is. If you can’t pin down who you hope to see your post, it might not be worth hitting send.