Have you ever wanted something so bad that thinking about it is as natural as breathing? Where you can perfectly imagine yourself in these made up scenarios, living your life as if you got what you wanted? Have you also walked into that situation and it turns into an absolute dumpster fire despite you having that undeniable desire? Me too and it blows.
Rejection is no easy thing to overcome, holding onto that innate wish for so long and then having to learn to let go. I have had my fair share of rejection lately and I can tell you, it is pretty gut wrenching. There are a lot of kinds of rejection but the way you move on from it more often than not is the same.
You just have to keep moving. It doesn’t even have to be forward. The progress of most things whether it be feelings, mentality or achievement is not linear. Progress is even messy at times. For example, I graduate this semester so I’ve been applying for jobs and internships for post-graduation. Lately, I’ve been mostly getting rejection letters where I hoped I’d be receiving options for the next phase of my life.
If I am honest with myself, I haven’t taken the news in the most prim and proper way. The first rejection letter I received was while I was making breakfast one day and I crushed the egg I was holding as I read it. With each rejection I have gotten angry, I’ve cried and heavily questioned whether or not I am good enough to be the journalist I’ve dreamt of being for so long.
What I think the hardest part about rejection is that we aren’t taught how to sit with our negative emotions. We are taught to look at the brighter side and so we almost experience a sense of guilt for feeling mad or upset about being rejected. And that guilt makes it hard to confide in others. We’re taught to remind people that everything will be okay but sometimes that’s not what we need. Sometimes we just need someone to give us the space and freedom to hurt. We need someone who will sit with us while we hurt.
I don’t think you should be comfortable with being rejected or failing by any means but I do believe you should grow familiar with it. Finding comfort in rejection is almost masochistic but familiarity with rejection teaches you life skills. It teaches you in the same ways that failing does, teaches you what you should do differently next time.
Sometimes rejection can be scary or even embarrassing. You can doubt yourself and feel like you’re running out of options. It can leave you mortified that you tried in the first place, especially when others are watching you fail. But whether we like it or not, rejection is part of everyday life.
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