
Ellen Weiss
Everybody has their own way of dealing with stress. Some people get blackout drunk. Some people smoke weed. Some people gorge themselves on junk food.
There seems to be a common thread here – all of these methods are really unhealthy.
It’s like it has become expected of our university culture to engage in detrimental, even reckless behaviors that have been made out to be fun, cool things to do. We do them with the excuse that we are in college, and these are the last few years of our lives where we can have adult privileges and use them to act like children.
It’s like there is this general attitude that makes us feel like we are invincible to any sort of harm. The thought is, “we get stressed, so let’s have crazy fun!”
This is not to say that people don’t deserve to reward themselves every once in a while. But too many times have I seen the most stressed out people I know partying the hardest.
Sometimes we develop unhealthy emotional habits instead of doing things that are directly bad for our bodies. For example, some people simply decide that when stress knocks on their door, they should instantly give up. People want to quit school. People want to skip class because they didn’t study. People don’t do their homework because they don’t know how to do it anyway. They’ve trained their brains to simply shut down the minute they see a challenge on the horizon. This in no way is this an effective reaction, and yet it is a mentality that I have encountered many times.
These are behaviors that we are going to carry into “the real world.” If people develop bad habits and apathetic attitudes, I highly doubt that they will instantly become productive, mature adults the second they leave college.
There are ways to deal with stress that relieve just as much tension without destroying your liver or sacrificing those few brain cells you have left – but I’m not going to pretend like we’re all trying to constantly self-improve. We’re busy, we’re exhausted and we don’t have the time or willpower to make big lifestyle changes. That, however, doesn’t mean we shouldn’t try.
By this point in our lives, we’ve all heard the touts of moderation – and it’s about time we listened! Moderate the amount of stress you let into your life. Don’t take more credit hours than you can handle. Then, once the pressure is on, moderate your coping habits. If you binge on snacks, limit the amount of junk food in the house.
Don’t let this culture of hedonism, laziness and weakness continue! Let’s start a new culture of maturity, self-confidence and moderation.
Ellen Weiss
Teammates, community, family mourn loss of 12-year-old boy killed in early morning fire ; Coroner expected to release findings from DeMarcus Thomas’ autopsy today.
Dayton Daily News (Dayton, OH) December 13, 2007 | Richard Wilson and Lisa Ebbing Staff Writers HAMILTON — Hundreds gathered along Hueston Street on Wednesday night carrying balloons, candles and memories of a 12-year-old boy who died in a fire earlier in the day.
The vigil for DeMarcus Thomas was attended by a close circle of his football teammates in front of the burned out apartment building at 120 Hueston. Many cried as prayers were said and blue and white balloons were released into the night sky. go to web site chaco credit union
“It’s sad that it takes a moment like this to remind us how important family is,” Chad Riddick, coach of the team called Little Blue, told the gathering. Riddick, who coached DeMarcus since he was in second grade, said he’ll remember the boy as a polite, easy- going and an exceptional athlete.
DeMarcus’ sister, Deona Thomas, survived the blaze. She climbed out of her bedroom window and jumped into the arms of a neighbor while black smoke and flames could be seen pouring out of the home just after 6 a.m. Their mother — Shunquela Thomas — and two younger siblings were not at home.
Fire investigators spent most of Wednesday sifting through ruins in the apartment. They had not determined the cause of the blaze by Wednesday night.
Steve Dawson, deputy chief of the Hamilton Fire Department, said they believe it started in the downstairs living room. Char and soot patterns will help determine how fast the fire spread, which will help to rule out possible causes, he said. in our site chaco credit union
“Anytime you have a fire fatality it’s suspicious,” Dawson said. “We’re paying attention to the small details, but we may never know the cause of the blaze.” Butler County Coroner Dr. Richard Burkhardt is expected to announce this morning his findings from DeMarcus’ autopsy.
Friends of the Thomases said the family lost all their possessions, including Christmas gifts. A memorial fund account is expected to be opened today at the Chaco Credit Union.
Neighbors are calling DeMarcus a hero.
“He saved his sister… he got her out,” said one, Carrie Parker. “He was a hero… I truly believe that with all my heart.” As teachers, friends and neighbors talked about the young man, who’s favorite color was Hamilton High School blue, tears alternated with smiles as they recounted stories about his “wonderful” sense of humor, his love for his family and football and his dream of playing on the HHS football team.
Many of the students in his class at Adams Elementary have been with DeMarcus since they were in first grade, said his teacher, Debbie Howard.
The school district’s Crisis Response Team — including 15 school psychologists and counselors — was at the school to support students and staff members, as well as parents who needed to talk about how to support their children in this grieving process, district administrator Bill Valerius said.
Team members visited classrooms and talked to students.
Richard Wilson and Lisa Ebbing Staff Writers